Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Family Ties Can Be Horrific: POOR AUNT EVIL


POOR AUNT EVIL

Later called Eva, by all but the oldest family members, Daddy’s oldest sister (when I was young) was Aunt Evil. Aunt Evil was dealt a hard hand as the oldest of the family.  Grandpa Cardwell was sick with Brights disease several years before his death in 1934. During the years of his illness Aunt Lizzie, the second oldest, married Luther Neely.  Shortly after his death Daddy married Mommie.

 In our small community two families topped the social class – if the term applies- the Neelys and the Cardwells.  Aunt Lizzie, a Cardwell, married Uncle Luther, a Neely.  Daddy, a Cardwell married Rutha, a Neely.  To be repeated several years later when Uncle Viven, a Cardwell, married Aunt Norma, a Neely. Needless to say I  have raft of double first cousins. It is (and maybe I will address later that special relationship).

Aunt Evil, the eldest, never married.  Unusual in that time and place. Various versions of her early life are vague and contradictory. She  had boyfriends; she was pretty; she wanted the normal life. But for reasons I have never been able to learn she never got a proposal.

Whether her siblings felt lucky or just took her for granted cannot now be known.

But here begins my account of Aunt Evil.
Often we visited Grandma Cardwell.  One visit hops up in my memory often.  I was just fifteen, Ivy was  thirteen.  Ivy and I were put to bed on the newly stuffed straw mattress in the back room where the pump organ was. Before giggling time was over Aunt Evil came in. “You gals all right?”
“Good”
“Nothing wrong?”
“No”
“You gals been sick yet?”
Ivy and I knew exactly what Aunt Eva was asking. She needed to know if we had had out first menstrual periods.  But we refused to cater to the nosy needs of our not so smart Aunt. Ivy responded  first, “I ain’t been sick for I don’t know how long.”

“Well.” She said. When she left us we giggled, never wondering how we might have made her feel.

Monday, June 1, 2015

Born Too Early For Today's Fashionable Full Lips

I was born in 1935.
Had I been born sixty years later I could have avoided one of the marking hurtful events in my young life.  I was born with full lips – not grossly full, but fuller than  the lips of my mother, sister, aunts or cousins. Today I would have been so in fashion.  But not then and there.  When hurt, angry or just obstinate I stuck out my bottom lip.  Daddy was wont to say, “Better pull in that lip or you might step on it.”

On one Sunday visit to Uncle Lawrence and Aunt Mirtie, Ivy and I, Shirley (the same Shirley who did not cut the clothesline) and Betty Jo went with Bobby Jean (Aunt Mirtie’s girl) to Sunday School. Our Sunday School class had several boys who did not bend to discipline. The girls fed off the boys misbehavior.  They did not listen to the teacher; they chatted; they giggled; they made paper airplanes from their Sunday School pamphlets .

My disapproval was obvious from my stuck out bottom lip. Then it began—what today would be labeled as bullying.

"What fat lips you have.”
”Somebody smack you in the lip?”
“I ain’t never lips that big ‘cept on niggers.”
“I’d be  ashamed of  them lips?”

I rolled my lips together, lowered my head. I did not look at or talk to anyone.
Uncle Lawrence picked us up in his truck. “You youngens have a good time?”
“Yeah”
“Yeah- real good.”
“Yeah from everybody.  Including me who still held my lower lip as tightly confined as I could.